Basically, someone meets someone else at some random location..a 7-11 for instance..and is absolutely convinced that they had chemistry and that it needs to be further developed. In hopes that their long lost love will happen upon it, they then post a little blurb about their chance encounter. I don't know if it ever works..but there are pages and pages of them online.
I suppose some might call this gesture romantic..frankly, a lot of the posts give me the heebie jeebies.
With that said, I STILL think there should be a "missed connections: mom seeking mom" section on Craigslist. I'd hate to think that this qualifies me as one of the above mentioned creepsters...but just hear me out.
I suck at making friends. Always have.
First off, I am very particular about the kind of person I want to be friends with. A lot of people just annoy the hell out of me. I couldn't even tell you why. They might laugh funny, or be too materialistic, too stuck up, or too phony, or their kid might be a complete asshat. Sometimes I meet moms who are so perfect that I am left with no choice but to despise them. :)
On top of my award-winning anti-social tendencies, I am also too shy..too awkward..too everything to initiate conversations, or exchanges of numbers, or do any other number of social maneuvers to begin the friend making process.
This means that the few friends I DO have are very outgoing individuals who "made the first move" so to speak. I'd probably just be some lonely hermit of a woman if it weren't for all you extroverts out there. (I'm making myself out to be a real winner, huh? lol)
The good news is that once I am comfortable around someone, and the friendship is well established, I am an awesome friend. Not to toot my own horn, but I am loyal to a fault, humorously self-deprecating, I love wine and chocolate so I will never be skinnier than you, and I'm a professional listener (M.A. Clinical Psychology). But I digress..
It happened today and I am pretty disappointed. If Craigslist had a Missed Connections for Moms..this is what my blurb would look like:
"Dear Olivia's Mom,
I'm pretty sure that's what I heard you calling your adorable daughter while she was yanking stuff off the shelves of Target and tickling my baby son's feet when you weren't looking. We met today in the baby food section and discussed the amazing innovation of squeeze fruit and veggie pouches for toddlers. About as riveting as conversation gets with two moms! You said your daughter was almost 2, and she may well be the cutest little girl I've ever seen. My son was enamored too! She had bright blond hair, (pink?) glasses, and the most adorable mischievous tendencies. You seemed a bit frazzled, but still managed to be very friendly. I saw you again while we were checking out. You were panicked because Ms. Olivia snuck off and you couldn't find her. I spotted her, took her tiny hand in mine, and walked her back over to you. You were genuinely relived. This was probably just a crazy, "off" day for you guys, but it reminded me of what most days feel like to me as a relatively new mom. It was absolutely endearing. I would have loved to get to know you better and to have let our two little devils have a play date. I hope that your day turned around and that Ms. Olivia treats you well.
Maybe we'll meet up in the baby food section again someday. The baby and I will keep an eye out for you."
(Non-creepster) 20-something Mom